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mabel normand · Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 6:55 pm Post subject: **Telling Your Extended Family**

I mean people outside of your home, parents, grandparents, uncles, etc. Do you tell them right away? When you start "looking sick?" Ever?

Froix · Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 1:45 am Post subject:

I think telling people who you spend a certain amount of time with regularly would be the courteous and proper thing to do. I don't think you're obligated to tell every member of your extended family. I certainly wouldn't. I have relatives that are practically strangers to me. :p
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bizofwords · Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 12:13 am Post subject:

most people with HIV don't exactly start looking sick until it's developed into AIDS. still, i'd suggest telling people sooner rather than later so that a person is able to get the support he/she needs.

surfville · Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 8:32 am Post subject:

I think the closest person to you will best understand situation you are in. In the case of positive HIV result, telling to other people outside your family would sometime cause disruption in the relationship. Depending on how the people whom you'll share it will react on it.

ybpublishing · Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 1:58 am Post subject: **Fear of rejection for telling**

I think it would be the hardest to tell those who you love the most out of fear of rejection. It doesn't matter of those you don't love or know reject you, but it does matter about those who you know and love. Think of how hard it would be to tell your parents that you were pregnant or got a girl pregnant then multiply that by 100. No one wants to feel unloved or rejected.
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Orrymain · Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 5:47 am Post subject:

Certainly, you would tell those you are in contact with on a frequent basis, but beyond that, it's totally an individual decision in my opinion.
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Wildwoman · Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 8:09 pm Post subject:

Well it depends on how your family is. What I mean is,will someone in your family spread it around to everyone? If someone in your family will do that then you should come out and tell people first. That way they know all the facts. I know I would do that as I have family that are good at telling everyone things and sometimes leaving information out.

Simplyme · Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 11:32 am Post subject:

True, it depends a lot on how close you are to your family. I do not htink that you have to share that information with everyone in the family but it is a good thing for those closest to you to know for many reasons such as: they can become educated to help you better deal with your disease; they can take precautions if they are exposed to your blood; they are not taken by surprise should you suddenly become extremely ill; and lastly it gives them time to cope with the worse case scenario.

bizofwords · Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 9:43 pm Post subject:

it would depend a lot on the relationships that i had with them

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